Understanding
I love the moment when someone has a new understanding about themselves and can look at things differently.
About Newen
Newen Fara
I am a relationship design coach based in Amsterdam. I help people and couples understand themselves more clearly, improve communication, and make more intentional choices in life and love.
Life path
Building life in Amsterdam after a long period of change.
After almost two years of travel with my wife Anouke and our daughter Asami, we returned to Amsterdam and built our life here again. Those years brought a lot of change, perspective, and reflection on how I wanted to live and who I wanted to be.
Since then, life has become more grounded. I have been working in Amsterdam for almost three years as a senior software engineer in the payments space, while continuing to stay deeply interested in relationships, communication, and human behaviour.
Background
Software engineering and relationship design both shape how I think.
My professional background is in web development, more specifically frontend and UX. It is still a big part of my life, and I enjoy the clarity, systems thinking, and problem solving that come with it.
At the same time, years of self-development, reflection, seminars, and workshops pulled me deeper into questions about life, fulfillment, relationships, communication, and how people build lives that actually fit them.
I do not see these as two disconnected worlds. The technical side of me values structure and precision, while the human side of me keeps asking how we relate, communicate, and make choices that are actually true to who we are.
Relationship design coaching
Helping people see themselves from a new perspective.
I care about helping people understand what kind of relationship, communication, and way of living actually fits them, instead of only repeating what they think they should want.
Possibility
A new perspective can open possibilities that were not visible before.
Fit
I coach people in how to think about their own relationships, what they are looking for, and what fits them best.
How I work
Calm, practical, and honest enough to name what is really happening.
I am more interested in the moment when clarity arrives than in polished stories. That is when we have something to work with. That is where better choices begin.
Practice
Questioning what I take for granted.
I have always been interested in interpersonal dynamics and human behaviour. During my life, I have learned about meditation, communication, family constellations, human design, and tantra.
I keep challenging my own thoughts and perceptions. I love learning new things, questioning how we think and behave in certain ways, and integrating what works into how I already live my life.
Communication
What are the best words for what we really mean?
I am passionate about how we communicate: what we say compared to what we mean. I keep in mind the question, "What is the best choice of words I can use to convey the message I want to communicate?"